Life is all about being balanced, happy, and fulfilled, which we term ‘the best you’ and is also the title of my first book. Other great philosophers and authors such as Aristotle’s golden mean and Daniel Goleman’s emotional intelligence describe state of being and feeling of being in ‘the best you’. Being in physical, mental and spiritual balance results in quality relationships, purpose, and more peace for you and others. Lacking balance minimizes your ability to maximize your talents and impact with your family, friends, and society. Worse off, the evil energies lurking locally and globally, take advantage of those lacking balance and create havoc with their fear, hatred and violent, irrational belief systems.
Similar, to the educational system set-up from kindergarten to college, the process to happiness entails people improving themselves through skill progressions. ‘The Happiness Process’ progressions below also share similarities to other progressive processes like Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs Theory, the 12-step addiction recovery program, and Coach John Wooden’s Pyramid of Success. Like other good curriculums we focus on what we can control, rather than expect others to achieve everything they want out of life now.
Before we discuss happiness and its process, it’s important to understand addiction and subsequent unhappiness. In Anne Shaef’s book When Society Becomes an Addict, she describes three ways of being: living, dying or living dead. Unfortunately, many people are living dead via their addiction. Fortunately, there is plenty of opportunity to get in the right mindset according to Carol Dweck, author of Mindset. ‘The Happiness Process’ is taught as part of our Founders Club program. Other topics we focus on to make the community whole is safety, respect, personal growth, and fun.
According to Wikopedia, addiction is defined as a brain disorder characterized by compulsive engagement in rewarding stimuli despite adverse consequences. The two properties that characterize all addictive stimuli are that they are reinforcing (i.e., they increase the likelihood that a person will seek repeated exposure to them) and intrinsically rewarding (i.e., they’re perceived as being inherently positive, desirable, and pleasurable). As opposed to Grassroots Change effects, addictions negatively affect individuals and society such as through long-term physical complications, altered neural plasticity in the brain, and the consequent loss of productivity and chaos and conflict.
Habits and patterns associated with addiction are typically characterized by immediate gratification (short-term reward), coupled with delayed damaging effects (long-term costs). Addictive examples include drugs, alcohol, food, gambling, and sex. Addiction specialists that take a holistic approach to treatment implement cutting edge technologies for helping one most past their negative habits and patterns. Check out the videos below to become aware of addiction and what to do about it.